Hi Steve and Shirley,
I am a 24yr old who is engaged to the most AMAZING man. I love him dearly and know in my heart and soul that he is the one for me. We have the same beliefs, pray together, go to Church together, my family loves him and he loves my family. I've met his family and they are all amazing individuals and they enjoyed having my company. So now the issue. Well, he asked me to marry him a few months ago and I SCREAMED YES!! Simply because I know what God has blessed us with each other. The problem with that is, there are a few people who don't necessary agree to us getting married so soon. They believe we are still too young to even think about marriage and that we need to just enjoy life. Well how him and I both feel is that our age is only a small fraction of what really matters when it comes to being married. We know that planning a wedding is one thing, planning a MARRIAGE is a whole ball game of its own and we've sat down and had a true heart to heart about everything including financial topics, communication, commitment, compromising, everything! We've even talked about going to premarital counseling just so we have the appropriate tools. But my issue is that although we both know or at least have an idea of what comes along with being married, is being in your 20s still too young to get married?? I thank God for my mother who said some powerful words of wisdom to me when she said "Age is not the factor its the maturity of each individual. So I can understand why they are saying he is too young, because what experiences has he had at the age of twenty. Is he or let us say you will to go the extra mile, that is through sickness and health till death do you part. That's a big commitment for anyone no matter the age. We say we do, but when everything goes to you nowhere in a hand basket, will you to stand strong and tall or will you allow the adversary destroy what God put together. Marriage is not an easy thing it takes more than love it takes those things I posted on Facebook. Are the two of you willing to put it all in sink or swim keeping each other a float, then age is nothing but a number. So now I'm asking an outside source, are we rushing into things? When is the "Right" time to settle down?
Ms. Ready and Willing