Hello Steve & Shirley,
I'm a 29 year old female with a big problem. I have been in a long term relationship with a great guy. My problem is not with him. The problem is me. I have stepped outside the relationship twice. The first time was five years ago. I was in college and I took this guys virginity (BIG MISTAKE). After our encounter, he wanted me to leave my boyfriend and be his girl but I didn't want to. I loved my man and I was just having fun during my college years. The 2nd time was about 3 years ago. I met this guy just to have some fun and now he wants to be with me. He is in love with me. He wants to marry me. What am I doing to these guys? I don't try to hook these men but it just happens. Recently, my ex boyfriend from high school has contacted me and now he wants to rekindle what we once had. I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt these men feelings. The relationship I'm in now is rocky because he is broke and he is still trying to figure out who he is as a man. He is a college graduate but he can't provide for us financially. I'm an CEO executive assistant and I try to be supportive until he finds a job but it is hard when I have so many other options to choose from (Entrepreneurs, Vice Presidents, Police Officers.) I'm not a whore. I just like the attention I get from men. My boyfriend doesn't show me the type of attention I like. Not necessarily in the bed (no problems there.) It is the little things. With the other men I like the obsession they have for me and I don't even try to turn them on. I can just be in their presence and I can sense their thirst for me. I love that! Even from the guys that don't have a chance in hell to be with me. I love that attention but I never wanted them to fall in love with me. What to do?
Every Mans Fantasy!!!
Dear Steve and Shirley,
I am a 35 year old single mother of one. I recently was reunited with my first sweetheart. It's been years since we have talked. Long story short we pretty much started where we left off with the mutual promise we would not catch feelings. Our outings usually end at my place watching movies but only when my son is with his dad. We have been having "controlled" unprotected sex for a few weeks now. It doesn't bother me but lately I have been thinking about having another child but had always said one "baby daddy" is enough and wasn't going to put myself through the stress of dealing with two men. Unfortunately, the bridge between my son's father and I has been demolished with no chance of reconstruction. Long story short he has been making little comments like what if I forget. I tell him he knows his body better than me so as responsible adults we should go back to using protection cause I don't like surprises that could be prevented. But the other day we didn't have any and we did it and the rest is obvious. He is a great guy and I feel it would work but how do I tell him I'm falling for him all over again without pushing him away.
In love and confused