Dear Shirley and Morris, I have been with my boyfriend for close to 5 years, other than the year and a half that he wishes not to count. During that time, I was 6 months pregnant and got with another man, who I still think of a lot, to this day. I admit that while I was with him, I cheated with my kids dad, so we broke up, though we talked and still messed around. I found myself falling for both guys, but I found out that he had done and said things about me and my family that made things between us rough. I found out that I was pregnant with my second child, which belongs to the same man as my first, so when I talked to him and said for my kids sake, I needed to see if things could work with their father. He said he would have it no other way. During that time, I found out both men had been talking behind my back, saying things that were way out of context. So it upset me. Now it's months later and everyone, even my kids dad seems to want to tell me things about him. Not sure why, but I wish I knew. Can you tell me? I have apologized to the man I was with while pregnant and tried to at least make sure both he and his child were safe. I really do care for them he is on his second girlfriend since me and seems to be happy. I'm so very glad if he is, because he deserves to be. I still have the ring he bought for me to propose to me, along with his favorite blanket. Only once has he said something about them but not to me to a mutual friend. Does that mean anything? I find myself thinking more and more about him. It's so bad that I dream about him. What does this mean? I really need your help. I'm tearing myself apart because I find myself missing him as a friend and wanting to talk to him, but I don't want to interfere with his life. But, he hasn't asked me for his things and I'm with my kids dad. I try not to listen to hearsay but it's been said. He's talked and asked about me as well. I need help, what should I think and why do I feel this way?