Okay....So I have been dating my boyfriend for 2.5 years and he is 45 years old. He's a home owner and has 3 children 2 children live with him ages 18 and 16(boys). Now when we met he knew he had things to fix in his home but since then the only thing he has done is put mini blinds up in his bedroom windows. He needs a total gut job to the bathroom and kitchen and cosmetic repairs to the rest of the house. The house is on the smaller scale so I keep telling him it won't cost that much. Now I have 3 children of my own 2 girls and the youngest is a boy 15, 14, and 10. I live in a nice sized apartment so when he comes up he brings the boys because he can't trust them home alone over night. Now he sees how I live and how my place can accomodate him and the boys so why won't he do the same so that my kids can come to his place. To date my kids have not spent the night over there due to the issues of the home and may have been there about two times in 2.5 yrs. I tried to buy him a toilet and floor tiles for his birthday in the past and he said no because thats a gift everyone can use! Now we see each other every weekend and we go out with the kids and spend money so I KNOW HE HAS MONEY SO WHY WON'T HE FIX THE HOUSE UP TO ACCOMODATE US SO WE CAN COME DOWN THERE. WE LIVE ABOUT 45 MIN AWAY FROM EACH OTHER SO THIS IS WHY HE COMES UP WITH THE BOYS ON THE WEEKENDS. We discussed marriage and living together but he has a city job and can't move out of the city and I refuse to bring my kids into the city (Philly.) So until this is ironed out he has to do something with his home. Isn't this a long time to keep hearing I'm going to fix it?