Hi Steve and Shirley,
I am a twenty-one year old female with two children and also married, who lives in a good neighborhood. There is this one neighbor that catches my eye he's is really attractive with nice eyes and is about my age. I'm married and I love my husband and I find him to be no more than a neighbor but what i noticed is he is more like a "watcher." First it started out slowly he would watch me each day when I went to work each morning. He would just sit out in a lawn chair drinking a beer but would he never say anything and I would wave frequently to soften the tension. Soon after those stages one day I was just getting home from work and I was tired and I had just picked up my kids from day care when I walked into my home everything was fine until I heard noises in my back room. Knowing it wasn't my husband because he gets off usually around 10pm I knew something wrong. I went into my room and I saw someone legs flop out my window and guess who it was! YES, it was him! Now I didn't call the police because I did not see anything that he may have taken but my Victoria Secret Thong I had in my draw was gone. Now I know this man has a thing for me. When my husband had finally came home I explained to him my underwear were missing from my draw and also I saw him falling out my window. He insisted it was a bird or whatever but I am still concerned. He really didn't even listen to me so I left it alone. A few weeks later he stop sitting outside in the lawn chair and I didn't see him as much but today I came home and I was undressing from work to take a shower and my window curtains were put up so my window was all open and I had saw out the corner of my eye and that he was watching me. I was naked fully down to the crack. I quickly grabbed myself and wrapped whatever their was laying near around me and ran to the bathroom a few minutes later he knocks on my door and I dont know why I let him in we talked and he said if I didn't let him "F" me their was going to be consequences. He threaten me so viciously but I know my husband would not beleieve me since they knew each other pretty well. Steve, I think this is getting a little to dangerous I'm already a cautious peson should I call the police or should I try to talk to my husband about it. I'm getting very uncomfortable.
Hello Morning Crew,
I'm a 36 year old man dating a 26 year old woman. I was introduced to her by a female coworker of hers as I was getting lunch at a local diner. When I was introduced to her she seemed very mature and I liked the way she carried herself. We had a short conversation and she decided to give me her number. I told her I was 36 and she didn't have a problem with the 10 year age gap. Honestly, I did feel some type of way that she was 26 but I said hey be opened minded and see what happens. After a few phone call tries. I noticed she would text more than talk. Texting is cool but I like verbal communication. After attempting to have a few conversations with her I started to question if she was nervous or just had no conversation skills. Remember now she was acting very mature when I met her. We decided to meet for dinner one Saturday evening. She calls me on her way to the restaurant we choose and said her mother wants to meet me. I was like what? Your mom wants to meet me? I told her look I'm a grown man and you're grown woman. You don't need no chaperon like you're in high school. I asked her why does your mother want to meet me? She told her mother I was 36 and I think she flipped out thinking. What does a 36 year old man want with a 26 year old? Last time I checked at 26 you're grown. Right then and there I new her mother was either controlling her or thinking I'm too old for her. Her and her mother pull up in different cars. They both get out and say hello. After the hello her mother says nice to meet you and then leaves. I'm like ha??? After all of that ends we sit down and chat for a bit. My instinct was telling me that she isn't ready for this. A few months go by and I could tell she was dating immature guys by the things she talked about and how she would handle situations with me by getting attitudes and having sarcastic comments. I could also tell that all her friends she hung around were immature as well. In my mind at 26 she should be way more mature than you were at 21 years old and younger. I had to tell her that maybe we just met at the wrong time in our lives. She apologized for acting immature and having no emotional boundaries when communicating. So I proceeded to asked her how was her relationship with her mother and father? She went on to tell me that it was rocky growing up around them. There was little communication between her and her mother on adult hood and how to be a lady. Her parents both were young and had problems through out there time together. After her dad and mother separated her mom was in and out of relationships and she was seeing this happen. She said her mother would always talk to her like a girlfriend instead of a daughter. Since I'm a little more seasoned than her I figure she was getting more negative feedback than positive feedback from her mother. So I figured her mother is the cause for her unlady like manner. And I'm sure she could have validation issues as well from her dad not being around early on in her life. Do you think it is wise to date someone like this? Or do you think I should just be a friend and mentor. I know age is just a number but I don't want to feel like I'm dating my little sister or raising a girl into woman. It would be great just to hit the ground running with someone who's mentally there as well as physically being there.. Thanks